I’m usually pretty good about doing things on my own: I spent this New Year’s Eve at a concert apart from all my friends, and had the best time, and I wake up extra early just so I can have an hour and a half to myself before my roommates wake up.
The truth of it is, though, no matter how good I might be at flying solo, the quietness that comes along with it inevitably allows my mind to start wandering, and before I know it I’m stuck in this labyrinth of overthinking that is my own head.
We’ve all been in situations where the annoyance of overthinking has taken root. It has caused us to pull back from conversations, it has caused us stress, and it has caused us anxiety. With this in mind, I want to touch on how we can get out of our heads and into our lives.
DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO ANYONE
One of the biggest causes of people getting stuck in their heads is comparison. We often compare our lives to those of others based solely on what we see. “This person posted a picture of themselves on a yacht in the Caribbean, their life is so much better than mine.” Or, “They’re in a serious relationship. They must be happy.”
The truth is we don’t know anything about the lives of those people. All we know is what they show us. All we see is their best. Think about it: there are filters, and geotags, and augmented reality settings available for nearly every picture we take. Social media is full of people’s best pictures, not their constant reality.
DO THINGS YOU ENJOY
Piggybacking off of the above, we should never be afraid of doing something we want to do just because someone else might judge us for it. I allocated all of my Summer plans to seeing my favorite band in concert 13 times—something my family and friends think I’m crazy for. Who cares? It’s what I want to do and it’s what makes me happy. Being actively engaged in something we really love keeps us in the present and stops us from retreating into our labyrinthine minds. Whatever it is you love to do, find a way to do it. If that means doing it without your friends, no biggie - not everyone is into the same things.
LIMIT YOUR DEVICE TIME
I know this sounds a little random but trust me.
We check our phones constantly looking to see if we have a new notification. After all, it feels good to know someone liked our Instagram post, or sent us a text message. It feels so good that we’ve become quite literally addicted to it.
The problem is, when we don’t have a notification waiting for us, our minds go from zero to sixty and we assume the worst. All of a sudden we think the person we were just having a good time with over text hates us and thinks we’re overbearing. Or the fact that there are no notifications waiting for us means that everyone is out there having fun except us. This is silly.
We get caught in our own heads because we lose sight of our lives. We never take a moment to enjoy what we have: our friends, our family, our hobbies.
Take stock of all the great things you have so you can step out of your head and into your life.
Until next time – let's go have some fun?