Regardless of what the weather is like, the itch to get out of the office and get outside starts to really ramp up right around now. The days are longer, the sun is warmer, and the people are outside doing outside things. Looking out the window in the middle of the day brings a sense of longing that just lingers until the work day finally, mercifully ends, but the problem is, once the work day ends, the post-work exhaustion creeps in and the desire to do something is replaced by the desire to do nothing. The sunlight we’ve been craving is passing you by without so much as a passing glance. Before you know it, it’s dark outside and your “free time” has turned into bed time.
This is avoidable. You don’t have to lament the fact that there isn’t time, or energy for you to get things done in your time outside of work. I mean, sure, they call it “the grind” for a reason, but the truth is, maximizing your evenings is simple, it just starts where you might least expect it: at work.
WORK HARD, PLAY HARD
I don’t want to tell you how to live your life, but separating work and home is vital to making your evenings enjoyable. The key is to maximize the amount of work you do during the day so you don’t have to take anything home with you, physically or mentally. It’s a lesson in delayed gratification: work now (less breaks) so you can play later.
Nothing sucks more than hanging out with a friend when their mind is clearly elsewhere. Don’t be that friend. What if Bill and Ted decided to go on an adventure one evening but Ted was mentally preoccupied? There is no way their adventure would have been excellent. In fact, it’s more likely they would have had a bogus journey, and we all know how that turned out.
External factors are what usually preoccupy our minds and are usually uncontrollable. There really isn’t much we can do about them, so why let them affect the prospects of meeting Socrates and Napoleon on an awesome time travelling adventure? Instead, take the evening, and the events associated with the evening, and make the absolute most of it.
Don’t worry, you don’t have to go to the gym, or go for a run, or even get up off the couch. What I am saying is, if there is something you want to do – read a book, watch the sunset, cook dinner – you have to be proactive and get it done. When you get home, don’t let yourself get sucked into the vortex of laziness by immediately sitting down and turning the TV on, that is a recipe for disaster. Instead, if you want to cook dinner, look up a recipe, gather your ingredients, and get your kitchen groove on. If you want to get out and meet people, put your shoes on, and walk out the door. Nothing is going to come to you, you have to be willing to go out and find it, whatever “IT” is.
Do you wish you had plans other than sitting on your couch alone? Great, go make it happen. We’re all masters of our own reality. If you want to get out and do something, get out and do it. Don’t let the fear stop you.
Bill and Ted were going to flunk out of high school unless they passed their history project. Did they let the fear of failing stop them? No way DUDES! They got to work and had themselves a most excellent time. You can do the same.
There is no better way to maximize your evenings (the way YOU want to) than to actively do it. I know work is hard, and sometimes maximizing your evening means sitting down, ordering in, and watching TV for three hours before you go to bed, but on days when that is not your first choice, get up and get on with making your evening everything you ever hoped it could be.
Until next time – have fun tonight.