We all know Mother’s Day as the day of getting flowers and picture frames and macaroni-encrusted jewelry boxes and other assorted tchotchkes to show your love for the woman that gave birth to you. Now, don’t get me wrong, these gifts are well thought-out and sentimental the first few times we give them to Mom, but after a while they become rote gifts that somehow fulfill the “requirement” of getting Mom a token of our love on this eponymous day. I say “to hell with that”. Sorry, Mom.
I’ll concede that it is an awesome idea to have one day marked for the celebration of our mothers (don’t worry dads, we’ll be getting to you soon enough), but why do we feel the need to spend money on gifts that we think she wants? Everyone loves getting flowers, that’s obvious; but does it hold the same meaning if you know that on the second Sunday of May, every year, that flowers will be delivered to your doorstep?
Let’s stop with the charade of giving mom flowers, or other such gifts on Mother’s Day and celebrate her properly, every day (ok, maybe not every day, but some days).
CALL HER EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE
I know, calling Mom on the phone could be [asking for trouble] (http://www.tubechop.com/watch/7966802) but this will mean so much more to her than any bouquet of flowers ever could. She’s your mom, she wants to know what’s going on in your life and that you’re doing ok. Is that so wrong? Bite the bullet and pick up the phone. The joy in her voice should make the whole thing immediately worthwhile.
SEND HER FLOWERS OUT OF THE BLUE
Like we spoke about above, getting flowers is nice, but knowing exactly when you’re getting them dilutes the gesture just a bit. Still wanna send mom flowers on Mother’s Day? By all means, be my guest, but send her flowers in November, and July, and January, too. There may be an unwritten rule that says you need to send flowers on Mother’s Day. But there is no rule that says you can’t send ‘em any other time of the year.
You know what moms (read: my mom) loves? Being spoiled and pampered. Now, don’t get me wrong, there is no way I am buying my mom jewelry or accessories that she may want (I don’t make nearly enough money for that) but I can see myself parting with $100 or so to surprise her with a massage, or a spa day (I know spa days are more than $100 or so, but humor me). After all, she did spend 18 years with me free-loading in her house, including daily meals, a car, clothing, room and board, and three biologically-similar friends for me to play with. The least I could do is spare a couple dollars to show her I care.
TELL HER YOU LOVE HER
This is really what it all comes down to. Buying things for mom, or calling her on the phone, or even pampering her are wonderful things to do for the woman who brought you up and guided you through this wonderful puzzle of life, but all the best thing of all that you could give her is your undying love. I don’t have kids but I’ve been told by people close to me that when you have a kid, the definition of love changes forever. That you won’t think it’s possible to love anything as much as you love your kid. Well, if this is true, I can only imagine the joy and warmth that fills a mother’s heart when they hear the words “I love you” come from one of their children.
Mother’s Day is important, but ultimately, it’s convenient. Don’t let your love for your mother follow suit. Love her inconveniently.
Until next time – love you, Mom!
P.S. Mom, if you’re reading this, the spa day coupon was uh… lost in the mail…