Just a few short weeks ago we wrote about ways to combat the seasonal saddies and start smiling through the Winter. That post was necessitated because Winter was nigh and colder temperatures and much shorter days were coming with it. Sounds pretty bad, right? Well, the good news is, your light-deprivation-induced nightmare is coming to an end.
We just passed the Winter Solstice, which means that yesterday is the shortest day of the year and from here on out the days start to get longer (more sunlight, yippies!!!).
With this astrological event balancing out our yearly sunlight allotment, I think this is the perfect opportunity for us to find some balance of our own.
DON’T GET TOO DOWN
A lot has happened this year, and depending on who you ask, not too much of it was all that good - I mean, David Bowie AND Prince AND Muhammed Ali died this year. What gives?!
Regardless of what may, or may not, have happened this year, don’t hang your head about it. No matter how bad things may have been, the sun (#SolsticeCallBack) will rise tomorrow, which is one of the things that keeps me balanced and grounded in trying times. Keep on keepin’ on and no matter how bad a certain day, week, month, or even year was, a new one is on the horizon. Buckle up, take your lumps, learn from them, and move forward.
Maybe you didn’t get that promotion you were hoping for, or maybe you lost that job outright. Don’t let it defeat you. Mourn it for a day, or a week, and then acknowledge the toll it has taken and use that energy to better your situation, and your year, moving forward.
Focusing on the bad of yesteryear (can’t believe I can write that in context!) will only take away from the potential goodness of what’s to come. What has happened has happened, it’s done. Let’s focus on making everything that’s going to happen better than what did happen.
Not convinced? Think about this: you woke up today, and that’s pretty great.
DON’T GET TOO HIGH
Again, regardless of what may or may not have happened this year, it’s important to keep things in perspective.
Let’s say you had the best year of your life. Your excelling professionally, building a life with someone you love, surrounding yourself with the people you love, AND your Chicago Cubs won the World Series. Sounds like a pretty idyllic year to me, but know that none of that is guaranteed next year – ask any Cubs fan about how long they waited for another championship and you’ll get the picture (note: it was 108 years). Like the phases of the moon, these things wax and wane.
Things are good, ride that awesome wave as long as you can, but tomorrow brings with it the unknown. Life may still be riding the same wave of ecstasy, but it may not. Don’t keep your head in the clouds, it makes it harder for you to see the stumbling blocks ahead of you. Keep yourself grounded and appreciate the good fortune your experiencing while also knowing that things can change on a dime. You’ll appreciate your good fortune if you know that it can end at any time.
My intention is not to be a Debbie Downer at all. Quite the contrary, actually. I want you to enjoy your time on this water-based space rock as much as possible, and it seems to me that the best way to do that is to keep things in perspective.
Know that when things are bleak, they will improve. Know that when things are spectacular, it’s not eternal. You should absolutely enjoy the good times, and you are more than allowed to mourn the bad times, but the higher the highs, the lower the lows, and that volatility is what takes a toll on our overall well-being.
Yesterday was the shortest day of the year. It’s cold, there may be snow or ice on the ground, and it’s just not pleasant to be outside. But starting tomorrow, the pendulum starts swinging the other way.
Don’t allow yourself to get swallowed by the negative. Know that tomorrow brings another day, and your next best chance at making it everything you could have hoped for.
Until next time – hello tomorrow.