I know it may not feel like October right now, but the calendar don’t lie. We’re inching up on November and as we continue our methodical march, regions all over this great land are starting to see the shift. Leaves are changing, days are getting shorter, and by golly, the temperatures are supposed to be getting cooler. But this isn’t about the natural phenomena of Fall and how to deal with it. This is about taking a page out of nature’s book and rolling with the changes.
I know this sounds easy and self-explanatory but many of us struggle with it. Take me, for example. Growing up I hated change so much that I would feel physically ill when it was time for my family to go on vacation. A new school year started? Forget about it. I cried as if the world had ended. How about that time my parents showed us the new house we were moving into? See the pattern yet?
I may have tried to rage against every machine of change possible – we went through more than one laundry machine…sorry mom – but in the end, the change was inevitable. And that’s the point. No matter how much we may not want something to change, it’s going to eventually. Like the seasons. It’s inevitable and we should take our cues from nature and embrace it. You don’t see leaves stubbornly remaining unchanged, do you?
THE LIFE INSIDE YOU
Life isn’t stagnant. It’s an ever-evolving kaleidoscope of variables that SOMETIMES represents a functioning timeline. Things may be going incredibly well at work for you right now, and that’s amazing. But eventually, your time at that job will come to an end. Now, that time may not come for another decade or two and be completely on your terms, or it may happen in three weeks and completely blindside you. The point is, at some point change is going to occur, and there is no reason to fear it.
Who knows? Maybe your job changing decades before you thought it would will lead you to a job where you feel more fulfilled and more at home? It may cause you to reevaluate things and spend more time travelling, or writing, or with your family. Whatever it is, it came from the inevitability of change.
I know it’s scary to think of things changing in such a drastic way, but drastic isn’t an inherent negative. Sometimes change, especially unforeseen change, can be the best thing to ever happen to you.
THE LIFE OUTSIDE YOU
Your life is shaped, in part, by things that don’t happen directly to you. It could be anything from someone close to you going through a significant change (the loss of a loved one, a massive promotion, a move) and it can affect you all the same.
For example, say your best friend gets themselves a new job that requires more of their time, meaning you’re going to see them less. I think we can all agree that this is a positive thing and we’re all super happy for our friend. But what about the second, or even third level ramifications that are soon to follow? Maybe you two were supposed to go on a cross-country road trip, or you were supposed to start taking improve classes together. Now that their schedule is in more demand – you know, by the man – you’re not going to be able to do any of these previously scheduled shenanigans. That’s OK.
WHAT ARE WE TO DO
Things happen and plans change. Like the old saying goes, “Man plans, God laughs.” Things are going to change without our consent more than we’d like, but that doesn’t mean we have to fear them.
Embrace the change and open yourself up to the possibilities that await you. Hell, if I didn’t learn to accept that inevitability of change, I wouldn’t be writing this blog right now, and you know what? I’m pretty damn happy that I am. Don’t fear what cannot be avoided. Welcome it. It will treat you better that way.
Until next time – embrace the unknown.